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KarinW
Quit 3 days ago
I am speaking here as a childhood trauma survivor. 
I had originally set my quit day for one week ago. On the quit day itself something very interesting happened to me.
I was confronted with flashbacks. Suddenly my childhood revealed itself from a different angle... Trust. 
I am fortunate enough to have a safe place. I can be me, and am surrounded by people who love me, something I learned through the first round of trauma revelations. Now, quitting smoking triggered my inner child, a part of me still stuck in the past. Quitting smoking now feels like having to reach deep within me, to my hurt and scared little child of 5, that I still haven't listened to. 
Quitting smoking needs to be a compassionate place where a childhood trauma addict can feel safe to start over and over again with quitting. I will not stop quitting. 
Thank you for reading all this. 
Last reply: October 19 @ 10:33 am
  • Lucille Brown
    Quit 1,691 days ago
    October 16 @ 12:38 pm
    Karin,  I'm so sorry that you are dealing with something that has affected you as a child and now as a grownup.  There are times when facing all our fears becomes so hard that we find something to keep it away and smoking seems to be one way that we think helps but the fact is it will always come up wether we smoke or not.  I'm glad you have a safe place and I really hope that you'll find the forum a haven as well.  Everyone here supports one another and there's no prejudice against those who choose to tell their stories and there are many, but in saying that,  the friends you make here are compassionate as well and will listen without forcing you to do something you may not want to.  If at any time you find it too hard you have the option of calling the Quitcoaches who will offer support and encouragement without judgement or harsh words. They can be reached at 1-877-455-2233 at absolutely no cost to you and will help you formulate a plan or help you from day to day.  Give it a try, you never know, this may be right for you.  Please read the previous posts for tips and ideas and what to expect during your quit.  If at any time you feel overwhelmed then you can stop and start again when you feel you're ready.  No pressure, just do the best you can.  Hugs, to you and may you find solace here among us.  Lucille.   
    • K
      KarinW
      Quit 3 days ago
      October 16 @ 12:55 pm
      Thank you so much for your kindness and information. 🙏
  • GregD
    Quit 360 days ago
    October 16 @ 2:18 pm
    Nothing but friendship and support here Karin. Thanks for sharing some of your story, we are all in this together. No judgement. Cheers to you.
    • K
      KarinW
      Quit 3 days ago
      October 16 @ 6:10 pm
      Thank you for your support and kindness Greg. 
  • J
    Jazzthespot
    Quit 31 days ago
    October 16 @ 5:33 pm
    Yes Karen we're not here to judge it's safe here. Quitting is a personal journey...one that only you can manage. However many times it takes...we'll still be here welcoming and supporting you.  
    Hugs  :)
    • K
      KarinW
      Quit 3 days ago
      October 16 @ 6:11 pm
      Thank you so very much, Jazz. Sending a warm, big hug right back. 🙏
  • C
    Clea.
    Quit 40 days ago
    October 16 @ 8:22 pm
    I hear you. Thjnhd came up for me when I stopped smoking. It seemed ridiculous that on the first week off smokes so many things came up. I found safe people to talk to and they all made me feel less crazy than I thought I was. I have grown through this quit journey
    • K
      KarinW
      Quit 3 days ago
      October 16 @ 10:42 pm
      Thank you for sharing. I feel inspired. 
  • QuitCoach Katerina
    Quit 3,886 days ago
    October 16 @ 8:47 pm
    Congratulations KarinW on setting a quit date! We are all here to support you KarinW, please know that you are not alone in your quit journey.  Please feel free to contact us through chat or give us a call at 1-877-455-2233 if you are in need of support, tips or just needing a distraction. We would be happy to help you. 
  • N
    NVM
    October 17 @ 5:42 am
    people here are legitimately trying to quit and you use "trauma revelations" as an excuse to fail? a lot of people have had crappy childhoods, but using that to not being able to quit is so lame i can't even put it in words without getting banned.
    • GregD
      Quit 360 days ago
      October 17 @ 12:36 pm
      So called 'excuses to fail' often are the very motivators that help us through life's challenges. While your opinion is yours to express, the delivery is hurtful and not appreciated NVM.
      • K
        KarinW
        Quit 3 days ago
        October 17 @ 2:43 pm
        Thank you Greg. 🙏
    • B
      Barbie20
      Quitting in 8 days
      October 19 @ 10:33 am
      In my opinion:
      Unless you have been through trauma and have PTSD or even worse; 
      C-PTD you have no idea what Karin is going through.
      This is serious stuff and NOT used as an excuse to fail. If she wants to fail why would she even be on this forum? I hear her despair and understand PTSD (I work with people who have PTSD). I believe the best way to help others is through kindness and compassion. (I see this approach daily and it works!) 
  • QuitCoach Sunetra
    Quit 3,460 days ago
    October 17 @ 12:36 pm
    Quitting smoking is a personal journey and each one have their own experiences when they quit. There is a clear link between childhood trauma and addiction and no two experiences are the same. One's childhood experiences and circumstances typically set the stage for future behaviours and patterns. When we are faced with adverse experiences as children, it can affect how we cope with the world around us. When we take on harmful coping mechanisms the result is addiction. Working through trauma and looking at the root of addiction can allow past experiences, beliefs, and painful memories to be processed in a healthy, effective way that's conducive to healing. KarinW, please be reassured that we are always here to help you. This forum is a non-judgemental place and please do come by and let us know how you are doing. Congratulations for your willpower and determination.
    • K
      KarinW
      Quit 3 days ago
      October 17 @ 2:42 pm
      Sunetra, you made my day. Your understanding and compassion warmed my heart. Thank you so much 🙏